May 4, 2011 § 2 Comments
I can remember as a young adult, coming “home” to visit my parents. They always seemed concerned about me. Many times they felt I was either too thin or appeared too stressed. I needed to eat more or get more rest. In actuality, they were probably right. Life is rough and they could see it on me. But the one thing I will always remembered about my visits to see them was their sense of pride. They consistently made it clear how proud they were of me and the person I had become. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the person I had become was the person they guided me to be. Sure, we all have that internal drive that helps direct us into who we become, but I believe our true sense-of-self is shaped by those who have the most influence on us – our parents.
With Mother’s Day quickly approaching, I have come to reflect on being a parent and what that means to me. Before becoming a mother, I used to fear it. The lifetime responsiblity of loving and caring for another human being seemed utterly overwhelming. I seriously questioned myself and ability. Could I do it? Would I be a good role model? Could I give a child what they need to be a happy, loving and productive person? I didn’t know. But this journey called motherhood, has given me so much perspective on who I am, where I’ve come from and where I’m going. It has opened my eyes to the importance of knowing who you are. With understanding yourself, you can accomplish anything.
As I think on my meer 6 years of being a mother, I find myself striving to give my son a good sense-of-self. One that will carry him through the good and the bad. Through my own realization, I understand my role as a parent isn’t to just make sure my son is fed, bathed and clothed. Reaching adulthood in one piece is only part of the journey. As a mother, my role is to guide my son on his journey to finding and feeling a good sense of himself. This knowledge will make a difference for him throughout his life.
I understand this won’t happen overnight. This will be a journey. It will probably be a long one at that, but his sense-of-self worth it. Our journey is just beginning, but I do know one thing…I am already so proud of who he is and know that my pride will only continue to grow, one day at a time.