May 4, 2011 § 2 Comments
I can remember as a young adult, coming “home” to visit my parents. They always seemed concerned about me. Many times they felt I was either too thin or appeared too stressed. I needed to eat more or get more rest. In actuality, they were probably right. Life is rough and they could see it on me. But the one thing I will always remembered about my visits to see them was their sense of pride. They consistently made it clear how proud they were of me and the person I had become. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the person I had become was the person they guided me to be. Sure, we all have that internal drive that helps direct us into who we become, but I believe our true sense-of-self is shaped by those who have the most influence on us – our parents.
With Mother’s Day quickly approaching, I have come to reflect on being a parent and what that means to me. Before becoming a mother, I used to fear it. The lifetime responsiblity of loving and caring for another human being seemed utterly overwhelming. I seriously questioned myself and ability. Could I do it? Would I be a good role model? Could I give a child what they need to be a happy, loving and productive person? I didn’t know. But this journey called motherhood, has given me so much perspective on who I am, where I’ve come from and where I’m going. It has opened my eyes to the importance of knowing who you are. With understanding yourself, you can accomplish anything.
As I think on my meer 6 years of being a mother, I find myself striving to give my son a good sense-of-self. One that will carry him through the good and the bad. Through my own realization, I understand my role as a parent isn’t to just make sure my son is fed, bathed and clothed. Reaching adulthood in one piece is only part of the journey. As a mother, my role is to guide my son on his journey to finding and feeling a good sense of himself. This knowledge will make a difference for him throughout his life.
I understand this won’t happen overnight. This will be a journey. It will probably be a long one at that, but his sense-of-self worth it. Our journey is just beginning, but I do know one thing…I am already so proud of who he is and know that my pride will only continue to grow, one day at a time.
April 28, 2011 § 3 Comments
There are many times in our lives when what you need to do isn’t really what you want to do. Most of us suck it up and move forward with the need rather than the want; however, even though the “need” decision is made, it doesn’t mean it’s any easier if it isn’t what you “want”.
I was googling around and found this quote by an American author and poet. She’s makes a good point…
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou
Often, life is about acceptance. Acceptance of need vs want. Acceptance of loss vs gain. Acceptance of love vs hate. Acceptance is so much about releasing whatever it is that has a hold on you and allowing yourself to change your attitude. To quit fighting it. If you can do this, then you can release that negative energy into the universe. The end result is a release which enable you to move forward to create a happier existence.
So my goal today is acceptance of the inevitable. To let what is to be – be, and in the end, may happiness abound.
April 12, 2011 § 1 Comment
Bubbles, bubbles in the tub,
it’s time to get in for a scrub.
Bubbles make me laugh and smile.
They make me want to soak awhile.
Bubbles have a special power.
They make me stay in the tub an hour.
Oh, and have you heard?
Bubbles can make a santa beard.
Without my evening bubble bath,
Mom and Dad would hear my rath.
Bubble baths keep me happy, it’s true.
I hope bubbles can do that for you.
March 28, 2011 § 1 Comment
Do you remember a moment when someone had an impact on you? It could have been someone giving you a compliment or a person’s good gesture. It could have been a present, a look or just a hug. For whatever reason, that moment with that person ment something to you. Do you think that moment was just as memorable for the other person? Does the other person know the impact he/she had on you?
More often than not, people don’t realize that what happens in one small moment, can last in someones mind or heart forever. It just goes to show, you never know which moments will matter to someone.
We should all remember to make the most of every moment. With each encounter, we should always try to remember to be kind, supportive, encouraging, thoughtful, generous and mindful. You never know. It may just be a moment that will never be forgotten.
March 10, 2011 § 2 Comments
This morning I was looking out of the living room window at the flowers starting to bloom. I smiled as it reminded me of a time when my son was completely obsessed with flowers. He was around 18 months old when the obsession began, and if memory serves me right, there wasn’t a flower he didn’t want to smell. As we would head to the park, he would insist I stop the stroller at every colorful bloom. I recall it seeming as though it took forever to get to our destination because he always wanted to touch, feel and sometimes pick the flowers we encountered. He literally stopped to smell the roses. At the time, I remember wondering why I hadn’t stopped to smell the roses before. I had walked by those roses plenty of times and never gave it a thought. I quickly came to realize that as we go through our busy lives, it becomes so easy to look beyond the beautiful things around us. That they can become almost invisible to us over time. Which made me think, we should all take notes from my son and stop to smell the roses. We need to open our eyes and learn to acknowledge and appreciate the beauty of flowers; but most importantly, we should appreciate the beauty in our lives. Take it in. Take it all in and enjoy it.
So today, after reading this and seeing the flowers starting to bloom outside your own window…stop and smell them. Appreciate them and all the beauty they bring. I truly believe you will be happy you did.